One of the most difficult parts of being in a relationship is learning to trust another person. Unfortunately, having that trust violated is also one of the hardest things that a person can go through. But, experts all agree that constant jealousy is one of the quickest ways to end a relationship. If you are a suspicious person who is afraid of being hurt and betrayed, one way that you can help to alleviate your fears and jealousy is by learning
the signs that your partner may be cheating. Knowing how to tell if your boyfriend or girlfriend is lying can give you the peace of mind you need to move forward and be happier in your relationship.
The Signs
Huffington Post has identified the 10 signs that point to a cheating spouse. Many of them make a lot of sense, and should be red flags for you to start opening up discussions about being more honest with your partner. For the most part the signs are all about your partner suddenly developing more secretive behavior than normal or sudden changes to their overall behavior. Dressing better, mentioning new people in conversations, and a change in your sexual relationship.
In today’s newly technological world, there are also a lot of signs to look for that have to do with social media and smart phones. Password changes, new friends on Facebook, or a sudden desire to keep a cellphone close to them at all times should alert you to the fact that you need to start paying closer attention to their stories.
Lie Detectors
A lie detector test, or a polygraph exam, may be something that you associate exclusively with police shows and reality television programs. However, there is mounting support for the technology as a legitimate tool for couples. In a brutally honest article for Salon.com, writer Stephen Schwartz admits to having a sex addiction that almost ended his marriage. “As part of my recovery, as part of my new marriage agreement, I have to take that test once a year. It is the tool that makes me accountable and it uncovers everything. There’s no gray area in the polygraph test,” Schwartz writes.
A polygraph is not a foolproof way to tell lies from honesty, but it is a unique piece of technology that when couples decide to use it, makes many people feel the need to be more honest before going into the exam. It’s this idea that has helped the technology gain popularity with recovering couples and marriage counselors. The impending pressure and possibility of failing a polygraph test encourages more honest conversations. Of course, for this to work, both parties would need to agree to it. A surprise polygraph could be a quick way to a separation.